The Life Of A Woman

A lot of people have a common misconception about me; I've been called everything from a playa', to a womaniser, to a sexist, to a basketball man whore. Contrary to popular belief, I am not any of the above. I think I am pretty empathetic, and I “overstand” the plight of a woman. A lot of men (including myself) sometimes call women "crazy"... I'll tell you why women are crazy.
 
Over the past few months I have come to realize how hard it is being a woman. Although men may be naturally stronger physically, I think that women are stronger mentally (these are over-generalisations and not clean cut facts). But I've been thinking through several things, and I'm glad I'm not a woman- I couldn't handle it.
 
First of all, the majority of guys you have come across since puberty have had some kind of agenda. You have been in situations ranging from guys lying to you, to coaxing you. "Lets be friends" he tells you, "I love you" he says... all to get in your pants. It is not a mystery why you have trust issues, and guys wonder why you act crazy.
 
Secondly, the media has created a warped perception of what it is to be attractive. Before I start on my rant I would like to clarify that you should be comfortable in your skin, and this is just my opinion. If you want to be fat, be fat. If you want to be skinny, be skinny- but why let random strangers tell YOU what attractive is? From TV, to magazines, to music videos, all that is thrown at us is skinny girls- skinny girls that use sex and sexuality as a means to get through life. I am guilty of this- misogynistic music. Degrading, sexist, and sometimes over the top, and guys wonder why you act crazy.
 
Thirdly, men. You go through pointless relationships- maybe they are tests, maybe they are worthwhile. But its crazy how many times I see guys using and mistreating girls- and its even crazier that these same girls don't understand their worth and they continue to allow themselves to be trodden upon. You don't need to be an object, and you definitely don't need a man to make you happy. Men think that its OK to cheat and lie- but dare a woman try it and ruckus will erupt. I've had girls that I just wanted to be in a relationship with, and others that I just wanted to have sex with. Sometimes I think back to the latter category, and ponder whether if they made the "right" decision. Some of you have sex just because you like sex. Others have sex because you care about the person, and some... some have sex because that's all you think you're there for. You've had issues with your upbringing, molestation, rape, abuse... you have been tainted- you subconsciously (or consciously) think that that's what you NEED to do. Maybe you're scared to say no, maybe you cant be bothered. You should try and not place yourself in a compromising situations... and you should definitely hold your cards close to your chest so that unscrupulous men don't take advantage. If roles were reversed, and women treated men the way men treat women, guys would break down... easily, and men wonder why you act crazy.
 
I'm sure we all know that the majority of single parents are mothers. Men leave women stranded- physically, emotionally, financially. Men are actually cowards when it comes to this aspect. Just because you bring a child into the earth does not mean you are to be the sole bearer of responsibility. From my experience, a woman cannot teach a boy how to be man. There is only so much that you can do. It is hard enough raising kids with two parents with one job a piece, so it is a monumental task doing this alone. This alone proves to me that women are stronger- being alone and raising kids alone is not an easy feat or something to be brushed off because it is so common- I salute you.
 
Fourthly, natural occurrences. I salute you. I personally cannot bleed every month and have hormonal changes and keep a straight head. I personally cannot carry a human being for 9 months... two brains inside me!?- no thanks. I have a hard time with constipation, I for sure cannot fathom going through childbirth. There is no comparison or substitute- it’s actually absurd. Props. And men wonder why you act crazy
 
I am not perfect, but I'd like to think that I treat people properly. I'm an honest guy and I haven't had any serious drama with women (apart from one detrimental situation which I am not to blame for). But just in case, I would like to apologize to anyone I didn't treat correctly.
 
In conclusion, men should treat you better. And men should understand your trials and tribulations- your drama and lack of head start since your inception. It’s a tough world, but I think it’s noticeably tougher for women. So... keep grinding ;-)

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